Divorce Effects to Family

Introduction

Divorce is considered an epidemic in any society it infiltrates, and occasionally off springs are the most affected by the effects of divorce. Currently divorce is a major menace in our social set up, and extremely common amongst us today. Divorce plays an active role in re modelling culture, by changing the definition of family.

The trouble my roommate is undergoing according to mills is personal troubles. Mills did believe that human beings were “entrapped” or alienated in a sense of defencelessness in the centre of their personal problems. Sociological imagination according to Mills refers to being able to overcome this entrapment, which is being able to differentiate between “personal troubles”, which often affect an individual, for example getting divorce, with “social issues”, that reflect on a problem for the whole society, such as divorce (Mills, 2000).

Personal troubles are closely related to social issues, since it enables us the general in particular. Sociology majorly focus on the larger issue of divorce, and the impact it has on the society. This broader view, will also enable us to be able to the social forces that affect divorce, such as changing gender roles, changing international relations, longer life expectancy, etc. in seeing a relationship between the broader social issues of divorce and the personal trouble of getting divorced, the individual is strengthened with and understanding that she or he is not alone in this, and that the responsibility is not on him or her, but on the social forces, that acts as the contributing factors to this particular situation (Mills, 2000). This understanding enables us to take better control of our lives, becoming shapers of our destiny and society, and not simply not just being shaped by it, as well as accepting our troubles as “destiny” or “bad luck”. Freedom is all about being able to know what these forces are and how they operate so that we have an option of saying no, to any effect of their operation. The main roles of sociology, is that it allows us to be able to the forces that operate in us, then unite the puppet strings that bind us, and therefore providing us with an option to be free. Understanding the relationship between trouble and issues, empowers us to be able to know what is taking place within us, and therefore be able to take charge of its course, by determining the decision to take on its operatives, therefore making individuals feel better (Mills, 2000).

The worst case scenario would be for the children experiencing intense conflict, have no option but to take sides, since they are unable to manage the internal anxiety and tension they feel. For these individuals, they risk undergoing serious psychological regression, where they view their parents as either bad or good (Mills, 2000). The psychological “splitting”, as it is referred to, is damaging to the off springs since it reinforces a style whereby they picture the world in a “white and black” or “nothing or all” way, rather than in a more balanced perception of bad and good in most people. It is obvious that my roommate, will undergo the above effects, and the only efficient way to handle them is to recognise them and learn of the social forces that contributes to the effects of divorce, so that he knows how manage the situation and not look down upon himself.

References

Mills, C. W. (2000). The sociological imagination. London: Oxford University Press.